Dating Relationship

Be True To Your Self For A Healthy Relationship

Most of us know that sometimes entering into a dating relationship can be equivalent to walking through a mine field. We enter into the relationship with high hopes and expectations. Sometimes those high hopes are realized, sometimes they aren’t.

If you want to learn some simple tips to increase your chances of making any dating relationship you are a part of much more successful and happy, keep reading. I have compiled some simple information that may be able to help you out.

Now, I’m not claiming that any of this is new stuff, most of it is just common sense. But even with common sense issues you sometimes need a little reminder or you may just overlook a few points.

So, here we go:

1. The first thing I always tell people who aren’t currently in a relationship but want to be is: work on you first. I’m not trying to imply that anyone is a huge mess but we all have varying degrees of issues and baggage.

Trying to identify and get rid of those issues and baggage is best undertaken before you meet someone rather than during or after the relationship. For one reason, the less baggage and issues you have and the more « whole » person you are will dictate what type of people you meet. So taking care of your own business first will make it much more likely that you will meet someone who is worthwhile.

For example, let’s say that you have a lot of lingering hurt and trust issues because someone in your past cheated on you. If you just try to push these issues down without really facing them and getting over them, they will continue to haunt you.

Whether you realize it or not, you will attract other people who have similar issues. You will likely attract people who will do exactly what you expect them to do: cheat on you.

Fix yourself first.

2. Do not underestimate the importance of a high level of compatibility. I’m not talking about the two of you agreeing on everything but rather the two of you having similar outlooks on the important things such as honesty, fidelity, respect, etc.

If you think honesty is one of the most important characteristics a person can have, why would you even consider getting involved with someone who doesn’t have a problem with « embellishing »? You are just setting yourself up for one disappointment after another.

So, when I say find someone you are compatible with, I »m not saying that the two of you shouldn’t have different taste in movies or music (though having a little overlap in likes will make social activities easier to plan out) I’m talking about having similar outlooks on the big things.

So, if you want a happy and successful dating relationship, you should take time to work on yourself an find someone who has similar outlooks on the big things. Incompatiblity can make your whole relationship one stress filled misunderstanding after another. Who needs that?